Heartland

In NZ State Highways with a single digit – SH 1 for example – are the ones we all know like the back of our hands. Or at least you do if you are as old as me. But the ones with two digits are much more exciting.

Over the last couple of days Johan and I have driven from Auckland to New Plymouth, back up to Te Kuiti and across country to Rotorua on SH 30, and from there north to Tauranga on SH 36 before returning to Auckland. The first and last parts of the trip were on the usual heavily trafficked routes, but the bits in the middle were more fun.

When we decided that a two-day part-work trip to New Plymouth could be improved by a soak in RotoVagos on the way home, we did not quite anticipate how much driving this would involve. Our trip south on Sunday morning was under over-cast skies, with the evidence of recent heavy rain everywhere. Those little towns in the south-west of the Waikato and on down into Taranaki are intriguing in a rather unappealing manner. Unless you are a farmer or work in an agriculture industry, in which case they are probably as close to your heart as any territory can get.

Nowadays, unlike when I was a child, you can stop for comfort in warm and pleasant cafes, where the food is often very good. There you sit, sorting out the locals from the travellers, and thank goodness for local tourism that has kept these places alive and often thriving. Without them a long trip would be a misery, as indeed it can be anyway when they all close for the day at around 4 pm, leaving the only option for toilet stops the burgher chains in the bigger towns. And if you are on SH 30 or 36 you can forget about that entirely.

The trip to New Plymouth was uneventful, apart from the enormous tree root blocking the northbound lane at one point. The police car had screamed past us a few kilometres back, but when we caught up with it at the blockage was turning around clearly uncertain how to simultaneously warn both north and south bound traffic. John did his bit by flicking the headlights at on-coming traffic for the next 10 km or so until I told him to stop, please. We got there just before 4pm, checked in to our hotel, and set off for adventure. Needless to say there was none to be found. The shops had just closed, the weather was inclement, and so we did the obvious and headed for a bar.

Yes, there is good food and drink to be had in New Plymouth. No, we did not immediately find either. The first bar looked good, was almost empty at just before 5 pm, but lost our custom after we were asked to move twice before we had even ordered a drink. The next was a cosy and well patronised pub, and my rye based cocktail turned out to be ok after I used the knife on the table to stir it. The ingredients had been poured in one after the other, neither shaken nor stirred, and topped up with a ton of ice in a big glass. Initially there was no flavour at all, but I sorted it out. Later, Salt, the restaurant at the Millenium Hotel (no we did not stay there) was pleasantly adequate, since none of the good restaurants were open Sunday night.

The next day, with the guidance of local Lisa, we had a nice lunch in a brew bar – Shining Peak Brew Bar in Gill Street. That meant we did not set off for Rotorua until mid-afternoon on the shortest day of the year. The Google recommended route – to be honest the only real route – took us back to Te Kuiti then eastwards across country with the sun setting on the hills. What a beautiful and lonely road that is. Much to our surprise the main trunk rail follows it for quite some way, but other wise it is tiny hamlets, a couple of meat packers, some plantation forestry, and lots of moderately hilly farmland. We followed a single ute three quarters of the way to SH 1 on the other side of the world it seemed, but otherwise until we caught up with a cattle truck a bit before the main road we were all alone. In the dark, and by then in the rain. On a narrow country road with NOTHING in sight in unknown terrain.

It is quite surprising how nervous you can get at 6 pm on a winter night when you have nothing but the moving arrow on your SatNav system to tell you where you are! And when Johan regards all adverse driving conditions as a challenge to be overcome with skill, daring and speed. Like when he overtook the cattle truck because the SatNav told him the road ahead was straight (he could see nothing) and the truck driver was encouraging him to pass by slowing down.

Anyway, we made it to Rotorua, a very nice motel room with a private spa, and an excellent meal just up the road at Urbano where the waiter even volunteered to take Johan’s Absinthe Obscura business card for his boss. We figured this justified putting the meal on the LCM Ltd card for tax purposes. Don’t tell anyone.

The next day we decided to visit my cousin in Tauranga on the way home, and to take yet another back road. Again it was a charming route, and this time sunny and bright all the way, so no driving induced anxiety on my part. If you don’t know this route, it features a very deep and dramatic gorge that appears out of nowhere. On this occasion it was made more interesting by the abseilor fixing steel netting high up on the gorge cliff, which was definitely worth the slight delay it caused to traffic passing by. We emerged at Pyes Pa out the back of Tauranga, where the residential development has gone nuts. I know about it because of the work I do with Tauranga City, and I have flown over several times, but it was interesting to see it on the ground.

Tauranga was lovely in the sun, but I have figured out what I think is wrong with it. There is no (obvious) art or culture. In New Plymouth there are outstanding galleries and museums, historic buildings, and at night the Len Lye Wind Wand is a world class installation. It struck me that Tauranga, all new and sun-bathed, is lovely but lacking. Just my idea – no doubt plenty of people would be quick to correct me.

So that was that. Lunch with Deb and Chad looking out across the harbour to the Mount, and the usual boring trip home from there. Oh, except for the car upside down in the Karangahake Gorge where it had fallen onto the road from the adjoining access drive. More police cars, fire engine, ambulance etc.

Home now, but Thames tomorrow for lunch. Wonder what we will see?

Dining with the PM

Well, dining at a table next to the former PM, and his wife. Last night we celebrated Amy’s birthday at Pasta e Cuore in Mt Eden. There were six of us, including the three-year old grandson, and they parked us right at the back of the covered garden area. Quite nice, even on a winter’s night, with heating of course.

We were part way through our entree when John and Bronwyn were shown in unceremoniously and parked at the table for two separating us from the rest of the restaurant. Laura noticed, pointed out who it was to the rest of us, and we got on with our dinner.

It is a remarkable and unique feature of NZ that no one bats an eye-lid at the presence of a famous person. No one stares, rushes up to say hello, or ever does anything more than give a nod or a smile. Mostly not even that. Where I live in Grey Lynn the place is littered with local radio and tv personalities. They shop at Richmond Rd and Williamson Ave Countdowns, and stand in the queue indifferently with the rest of us. It is not uncommon to stumble across actual Hollywood stars in the bars and restaurants around town. Apart from the time our friend Mark stalked Rachel Hunter on the Waiheke ferry, they are largely safe from fans and passersby alike.

Certainly, we did not get too excited last night. Nor did anyone else in the restaurant, and the waiter offered no special service. The Keys were not bothered either by adulation or comparisons to Jacinda. I notice that my son-in-law did ramp up his demonstrations of my grandson’s bilingual, and even trilingual abilities, but unsurprisingly we did not provoke anything more than a glance from the neighbouring table.

Nice night though.

When is it time to quit?

I am talking about permanent paid employment, not life. Getting up at 6.30 am every morning is becoming a real drag. Having passed 65 and not out, I feel like I deserve a break.

Of course, ‘deserve’ is not really right. For most people, for the whole of human history, retirement did not exist. You worked till you dropped in order to survive, and snatched your leisure and pleasure on infrequent high days and holidays. I have just read about the life of a nurse in the late nineteenth century, where the hours were 7 am to 8 pm seven days a week, with two hours off from noon till 2 pm on Sundays. For many people in the world life remains a 24/7 scramble for survival.

So it is not really that I deserve a break. Rather it is that I really, really want one. A long one – where it is up to me when and how I ever work again. I am not one of those frightened by the prospect of having nothing to do. I have plenty to do. I can write, paint, decorate, knit, read, walk, travel, explore, cook, shop, help out my family, re-learn how to ride a bike, watch movies, go to concerts, build a new house, play with my grandson, garden, live life. My weekends already overflow, and I am undaunted by the thought of calling my time my own.

Trouble is, I still need to fund my lifestyle. Hell’s bells, I still need to fund my life.

And life in NZ is expensive. At the moment, and as long as I have any sort of decent job, my NZ Super is taxed to the point where is comes to the grand total of just a bit more than $250 per week. If I don’t work at all it is a little bit more, but nowhere near enough for me to live on. It would cover groceries and not much more. I own my home, but not being blessed with a life time of savings (and therein lies a tale) I have either to work, or find another source of income. Not to complain because I know I am better off than most.

But it does mean making choices. I can continue to work indefinitely, but to be honest that is unappealing. A Lotto win would come in handy, but unfortunately it chooses you, not the reverse. A few weeks ago we woke up on Sunday morning to read in the news that the big winner had purchased from a dairy in Grey Lynn. Johan had bought his ticket from our local dairy just 5 minutes before closing the night before. We held off checking till lunch time just in case, but alas it was a different Grey Lynn dairy and a different punter.

There are any number of scenarios that might improve future prospects, but each of them is unpredictable at present. All options are on the table. My favourite at present is to move to Costa Rica.

It is a beautiful, stable country with good infrastructure that has no problem giving permanent residence to retirees who prove they can support themselves. Rent out my apartment, sell the house plot up north, and Bingo we can retire in a tropical central american paradise. Money to spare and travel. Put my Duolingo Spanish lessons to good use, and provide an exotic holiday base for friends and family.

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Winter Rhythms

It is not cold, but it is raining and grey. Leaden. Sunday morning got off to a late start, but now I am showered, warmly dressed, and far too comfortable to try very hard. The floor and bathrooms are clean, but the dusting and tidying can wait, indefinitely for all I care at this moment.

I look across the lane to my neighbours’ decks, and they are abandoned at this time of year. Some, like me, persist with gardens in pots, but few are thriving at present. Tiny white mites have invaded all of my plants now, even the gardenia whose tough and shiny leaves I thought immune, and which is just about to flower. Yes, yes – I have tried this, that, and the other, but the problem persists. The deck furniture looks particularly forlorn. The brightest colours are faded or washed out. The bean bags look deflated. On one deck is a perfectly good leather sofa that its owner has no room for inside. Over the months it has gotten dusty, dirty, and now mouldy.

Some of the windows are permanently curtained or blinded as if some people prefer to live in a twylight world. Those decks are permanently bare, although I know people live there. My curtains are rarely closed. The bedroom blinds go down at night, and on a wild and stormy night I may close the living room blinds. But otherwise I prefer the light and to see out. My life and my apartment are transparent, lit up on winter nights like a peep show for those looking in from across the way.

This morning is so lazy. Last night a friend gave us home-made pizza for dinner, and made us a doggy bag of the leftovers, so lunch is spoken for already. Johan is watching Stephen Colbert on his laptop, but soon I know he will ask me what I want to do. What do I want to do? There is a new show on at the Auckland Art Gallery, but I cannot be bothered walking up the hill from my carpark in the rain. We could go to the movies, but why bother when I can just turn on Netflix. Not the same I know, but today too lazy to care. We could go for a walk – it would be good for us – but no. Not today. Shopping? Nah. Sort out our finances. Organise the cupboards. Make meals for the week ahead. No, no, and no.

We could venture out west where it will be even greyer, green and dripping, to visit daughter, son-in-law and grandson in the rain forest house. But maybe not. We have to be careful to give them some space in their new premises. I could call the other daughter and see if she wants to catch-up, but no. She will be busy I suspect. My sister has taken herself off to the Cook Islands to inhabit that bubble, so no visiting there. And I took Mum to the dentist and then had lunch with her on Friday, so no braving the southern motorway for us today.

The day will probably drift by. There are always days like this in winter. Nothing much happens. You do nothing much. The appeal of activity is hard to locate. June is when it occurs to most Aucklanders that it is actually winter.

But it lasts no time at all. In truth, the temperatures are spring-like, and in July the daffodils will be popping up with the (false) promise of spring. We will get used to venturing out in bracing weather with coats and scarves and umbrellas. Motorists will remember how to drive in the rain. Winter sports fans will revel in the rugby instead of the cricket. The bare oak and plane trees in the streets will start to look sculptural instead of sad. The chimneys of the little villas and bungalows that surround my apartment building will pump out fragant smoke from their ‘for show’ woodfires. And we will get on with our work, and play, and socialising, and family events, just as we do the rest of the year, accepting that it is just a little more of an effort.

Then, almost before it began in this part of the country, it will be over. Some of us will still be heading south where there is snow on the mountains to ski, and all of us will pity the poor South Island farmers when freezing storms make lambing a nightmare. But for the true Aucklander, every sunny day will see experiments with tee shirts and shorts and jandals. The barbecues will get cleaned up and fired up – yes, there are barbecues on almost all of the decks in my building. My neighbours and I will rip out the limp and dying vegetation in our pots and go shopping at the Plant Barn down the road. Some of us will scrub and others re-seal our deck timbers. Bikes stored in the basement will reappear in the lane more often, at least once the tires have been pumped up again. Someone will have a party in the roof garden. A concert will take place at Western Springs and we will get free music. We will breathe, and stretch, put on sun screen, and venture out on foot. Eat salads instead of casseroles.

But not just yet. For now we are sunk in the long, slow rhythms of winter. And it is actually quite nice.

Broken Promises

Do you ever break promises? Sometimes I do.

I never break promises related to work, or money, or chores, or specific obligations to people in my sphere. I break big, important promises to myself and aspirational promises to others. The very worst kind of promise breaking.

Almost four years ago I started a blog on this site under the same title, Grey is the New Blond, and I began describing my day to day life during a three month solo stint living in the south of France. At the same time I began an episodic story tracing the life of my colourful grandmother and her off-spring, hoping to better understand my family dynamic and what made me who I am.

As it turns out there was quite a bit of interest in both topics. That was great because the writing of it was fulfilling a promise to myself to challenge my resilience and explore my skills as a writer. But when I returned to NZ, to family, and to work, my commitment fell away badly. Every day occurences continued to intrigue me, but day after day I failed to record them. I travelled, I lived, I observed, but I did not record. I found the technicalities of blogging and publishing daunting, and still do. But mainly I just let life overtake me. My resilience was not tough enough. I did not keep my promise to myself.

Then, a year or two back, I picked up the thread on a FaceBook page, also called Grey is the New Blond. It still exists and you can check it out if you choose. Along with my commentary on daily life, the story of my grandmother picked up pace. It was coming into my own life span, and I was getting excited. But then my enthusiasm got the better of me. I gave too much away for the comfort of some family members, who reminded me forcibly that in telling my story, I was also telling their story. And it was one they did not want told. I was hurt. They were hurt. But their point of view was valid, if wounding. So I stopped telling that story, and the rest of it soon ground to a halt.

Promise to myself broken again, but kept to others. Although that story is important to my wellbeing, I will not publish it here. It will be completed, but it is much harder without an audience. Not sure what that says about me.

What I do intend to do, is to resume my commentary on live as it goes along. Perhaps not daily, but at least on a regular basis. It is not as if there is not plenty to talk about. From the rise of populist politicians like Trump all around the world, to the pandemic that is still out of control, so much of what we viewed as progress in my lifetime is slowly but surely being unwound. And there are so many other topics de jour, from the disappearance of the stash of plastic bags that used to live under the sink to the re-emergence of Crocs as a fashion statement ( I am wearing a pair as I type). Not to mention the exigencies of age – mine, my partner’s, and indeed my mother’s. Coupled of course with the mixed guilt and joy of being of that supposedly unfairly privileged generation, the baby-boomers. The first generation to approach death by old age clad in skin tight jeans, biker jackets and addicted to heavy metal. Go to a concert, any concert. You will see what I mean.

If you are interested, check it out from time to time. I am making another promise to myself. Keep living by keeping writing.